Yes, I do have a bit of a problem because Bob would always say how ridiculous it was to send In Memorium notices to the paper. Why you may ask!!. Bob's argument was that if you do right by the person whilst they were alive there would be no need to put notices in the paper purely for other people to read. You should remember them every day not just on certain days. I am sorry Bob but I have to do this even though you aren't able to read it : In the last week of his life Bob said to me whilst I was washing him "I don't want you here I want Val" I just said I am Val and then he said "Yes but I don't want you I want MY Val" I cupped his face in my hands and said "Bob I am your Val" and he just said Oh Yes and smiled. Today 14th September is our wedding anniversary. Today is the day I became Your Val. We shared almost 18 years of marriage and were together for 25 years amazing years. I am so proud and honoured to have been your Val, to have been truly loved by you and I will now and forever be Your Val xxx